Well, despite these hits, Shine is certainly not without its misses. One article that caught my eye was entitled "Jessica Alba: What was she thinking...?" It features a photo of the pregnant Jessica Alba at the Nickelodeon Kid's Choice Awards, sporting a beautiful green dress and holding a Nickelodeon award. The author of this article made a list of "thoughts" going through Alba's head, the last one being, "It's one thing to be a blimp, but do I actually have to hold one?"
Calling a pregnant woman a blimp. Nice. Please join the handful of other wonderful people who have left angry comments and voice your opinions on promoting these negative ideas on a supposed "woman-friendly" website.
Another aspect of Shine that I found particularly unacceptable is the fact that they bashed Maxim for their "Unsexiest Women" list, and commended The Phoenix for doing the same for males. I think that if Shine wants to survive as a website, exhibiting hypocrisy is a step in the wrong direction. I decided to take a look at this 100 Unsexiest Men list on The Phoenix. It is, to say the least, more than insulting.
The introduction to the list tries to outright abolish any concerns the reader might have of the list perpetuating shallow beauty pressures.
We’re not talking about mere un-handsomeness or bodily imperfection here. We’re not talking about bad-hair days or bad breath. No, compared with the characters we’re about to unleash on you, your average lump (or indeed, your average male Phoenix staffer) is a walking Michelangelo masterpiece. These are, for the most part, men whose behavior is so wretched, whose character is so flawed, that it transcends traditional definitions of attractiveness.
"ESPN homunculus looks like a cocktail frank wetted and then dipped in an ice-cream-topping jar of pubes."
Or maybe their unshallow mentality is to be found in them referring to both "Project Runway" star Christian Siriano and magic guru Criss Angel as a "trannies." Classy.
What about their articulate description of comedian Jeff Foxworthy?
Putting aside the fact that this website sports more glitter and pink sparkles than I have ever seen in my life, the Girlz World features four main activities that its inhabitants can partake in: games, chatting, decorating a house, and shopping. There is no option to sell products - only to buy them. In fact, there are absolutely no career opportunities in Girlz World. There are also no schools. Just a mall. You have the option to eat meals in between shopping sprees; the tour guide in Girlz World proudly states, "Remember: the healthier foods you eat, the more energy you'll have for fun things, like shopping!"
The dolls themselves are not much better. Their names are: Bubbly Britney, Totally Trish, Supercool Serena, Lucky Lindsay, Cute Candy, Pretty Patti, Classy Carla, Jammin' Jenna, Sizzlin' Sue, Dazzlin' Destiny, Lovely Lola, Punky Penny, Rockin' Ruby, Sassy Star, Cutie Cathy, Happy Hillary, Precious Paris, and Sweet Sammi.
What about a Brainy Betty? Or an Independent Isabel? Artistic Amy? Career-Woman Carrie?
They have short descriptions for all the dolls on the website. Out of 18 doll descriptions, only two mentioned school or work. But all 18 of them provided a description of the outfits the dolls wear. A sample:
"Lovely Lola is here to show you that blondes really do have more fun! She's decked out in a fluffy pink jacket with a white belly shirt undernearth, and we can't forget to mention her pink leggings and matching high heels!"
I wish more people would understand that this is why people think boys and girls are inherently different. The "differences" between men and women don't lie in genes - they come from gender stereotypes being pounded into the heads of children. From this Girlz World where shopping is a full-time job, to the fake tool kits and monster trucks that are marketed to little boys. Of course females are going to grow up to love shopping, and males are going to grow up to learn how to fix leaky sinks. It's all they know. Do we really want to teach our daughters this?
Oh, I see! So it's only okay to slap women when they deserve it because they're just not listening to you. And just as long as it's never with a closed fist, it's completely justified. Well, thank you, Sean Connery, for using your power and influence to promote violence towards women.
(Special thanks to Jennifer for showing me this).
- Following up with my last post, the Transportation Security Administration responded to Mandi Hamlin's complaint about being forced to remove her nipple rings to board a plane.
- Larry King was a gay eight-grader who was shot in the head because others did not like him wearing makeup and jewelry to school. His murder is prompting gay activists to call for better education about exercising respect and tolerance towards GLBT people.
- Efforts have begun in Zimbabwe to increase female political involvement.
- A frightening statistic: in Nigeria, 61% of new HIV/AIDS infections are found in women.
- Muslim leaders are speaking out against the practice of forced marriage.
- Rikki Rockett, drummer in the band Poison, has been accused of rape.
- In India, a woman was accused of being a "witch" and was consequently tied to a tree and beaten by an angry mob.
- A string of purse snatchings have been underway in California. The offenders are clearly targeting Asian women.
- A new natural form of birth control has emerged that is receiving praise from both women and men.
- Top ten craziest things John McCain has said while you weren't watching.
- Chelsea Clinton states that she believes her mother would make a better president than her father.
- Castro's daughter is promoting the acceptance of gay rights in Cuba.
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Crying, she removed the first one, a barbell, but had a difficult time with the second one, a ring. She told the agents. Their solution? They gave her a pair of pliers to pull out her nipple ring. Ouch. To top off Mandi's wonderful day: while taking out her nipple rings, she overheard security agents snickering about what happened to her. Mandi has now hired prominent feminist lawyer Gloria Allred, who is representing Mandi in her attempts to receive an apology from the security agents and to have their civil rights office perform an investigation. The agency maintains that they performed the security check properly, but I don't know how that's possible when there were so many other options they could have explored before choosing so quickly to humiliate this woman. See the video below for more information, as well as Mandi performing a demonstration on a dummy of how she had to remove her piercings.
"This is her, the rape victim." I raise my eyes and look at a Congolese woman in her 40s who is breastfeeding. Marie-Honorine, my colleague from the International Rescue Committee, a specialist in working with survivors of sexual violence, points to the Bambi-eyed 14-month-old girl at the woman’s breast and says: "No, that is the victim."
Three months ago she was raped, the mother tells us. Her small uterus was destroyed. She has undergone several operations, but is not yet "repaired."
Raped at fourteen months old. This isn't a rare occurrence. Every day, the bodies of women and girls are being ravaged. Many are left pregnant, or infected with HIV. Some women are shot in the genitals, resulting in serious damage that very few hospitals are equipped to repair. Some women are raped while pregnant, some are forced to become sex slaves. Several women have watched their family members get shot right in front of them for refusing succumb to the rebels' sexual demands. Moreover, many women refuse to tell anyone that they have been raped because of the negative social stigma surrounding it.
It's an appalling situation. I'm currently sponsoring a woman in the Republic of Congo through Women for Women International. Her name is Lucie, she's 18-years-old and has four children depending on her. She can't afford to send her children to school, and her home has no electricity or running water. The hardships these women undergo are endless. If you want to help, please visit Women for Women to look into donating money or sponsoring a woman in a war-devastated country. You can also visit the International Rescue Committee website to learn more about the situation in Congo, as well as find out ways you can help. Please do what you can.
"It was a rare ruling… I cannot tell how the commission came up with this decision… But you cannot deny the role of public opinion and domestic and international pressures."
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"How can a transgendered man expect us to treat him like a man if he's pregnant? You can't have your cake and eat it too."
"Why can't people choose a side and stick to it? Gender isn't a buffet lunch at Red Lobster."
And, there you have it. The complicated processes and struggles that transgendered people go through cleverly reduced to food metaphors. Thank you for clearing it up, Greg Gutfeld.
Greg also consulted with a guest on the show, a woman who I believe is named Janine. Greg asked her, "This person has no right to call himself a man, right?"
Janine replied that this person is definitely a woman, and she offered some of her expertise on the situation:
"If you're transgendered, that means your gender - your genitals - are trans."
Hmm. I'm going to take a wild guess that these people do not know the first thing about being transgendered. Someone desperately needs to give these clueless idiots a crash-course in the difference between "sex" and "gender." Listen up, children, because I'm only going to say this once: your gender does not have to match your genitals! Gender is what a person identifies as. Sorry Janine, but this man is, in fact, a man, because it is what he identifies himself as, and we should stop trying to impose our rigid gender stereotypes on him.
If anyone wants to send a corrective e-mail to Mr. and Ms. Close-Minded, you can send it to firstname.lastname@example.org.
Connerly contends that the success of Obama and Clinton shows that preferences are no longer necessary "to compensate for, quote, institutional racism and institutional sexism."
First of all, I find it incredibly shocking that Connerly is a black man and such an avid opposer of the advancement of his own people. Second of all, using Obama and Clinton as examples as to why there is "no more need to compensate for racism and sexism" is ridiculous. Yes, it's fantastic that our Democratic candidate is either going to be a black man or a woman, but you cannot honestly say that because of this, our work is done. Political candidates are no indication of the lack of minorities in universities OR the number of minorities being rejected from certain occupations. Just because we have a black man and a woman in the political spotlight does not mean that our problems are over!
If ANYTHING, Arizona, Colorado, Missouri, Oklahoma, and Nebraska need affirmative action desperately. Let's take a look at a few statistics, shall we?
Anyone see a problem here? I do.
People need to understand that affirmative action isn't about discrimination. It's about offering people the chances and opportunities that they deserve, but because racism is so ingrained in our society, they are often denied. It's an attempt to fix all the ways our country has fucked up in the past and it's a chance for us to be better than our ancestors. Why is this such a terrible thing?
To learn more about affirmative action, as well as learn about ways to get involved, visit affirmativeaction.org.
(Article excerpt from the Washington Post. Statistics from the National Center for Education Statistics).
For those of you who can't get out to New Orleans, visit here to look up a local V-Day event. The Vagina Monologues is a wonderful show and a great way to raise money for stopping violence against women and other important causes. So, get involved!
Bob Jones University in South Carolina only dropped its ban on interracial dating in 2000; a year later 40 percent of voters objected when Alabama became the last state to remove a ban on interracial marriages from its constitution. So, yes, we've still got some work to do.
"The reason so many find it so hard to be in interracial relationships is because, in my opinion, there is still entirely too much emphasis on and preoccupation with race. Obviously, racism still exists, but everything isn't about race -- unless we continue to make it so."
I love when people inspire me to believe that it's never too late to make the most of your life.
Facing starvation, as many as 50,000 women and girls have been forced into prostitution in Syria alone, according to Hana Ibrahim of the Women's Will Association.
"70 percent to 80 percent of the girls working this business in Damascus today are Iraqis," 23 year-old Abeer told the New York Times. "The rents here in Syria are too expensive for their families. If they go back to Iraq they'll be slaughtered, and this is the only work available."
If you want to learn more about human trafficking, as well as find out ways to get involved to help put an end to it, you can visit the Global Fund for Women.
Disgusting. I can't imagine the Bush administration giving two shits about this, however.
And if feminism is really about equality, we can't hold certain lifestyle choices sacred to only our gender. Remember when men got all up in arms about women trading skirts for pants? Wearing makeup is a choice, sort of like working full-time or carrying a purse or watching pro-wrestling.
Exactly right. Feminism is about equality - and why shouldn't that extend to males? I think men have every right to wear makeup. Why should it be that society only allows females to cover up blemishes and highlight their cheekbones? If a man wants to wear makeup, he should wear it proudly, and I think he should be able to sport some CoverGirl (CoverBoy?) without people attacking his masculinity.
In Egypt, Dr. Mona Mina has created quite a stir by organizing the group Doctors Without Rights. The underpaid doctors participated in a major protest, holding signs that said, "Two-hundred-and-thirty pounds a month is not enough to feed our families." Mina also called for a two-hour strike in hospitals across the county, but the nervous government, led by Hosni Mubarak, declared strikes illegal. From BBC:
After the stand-in ends, I ask her: "So, has the government won?" She looks at me as if I have just said something quite silly, shakes her head defiantly and says: "Look. They won the battle. The war goes on. We are not giving up."
Ugh. Just ugh. Excuse me, but WHO is Maxim magazine to tell her that she isn't sexy? Sarah's sexuality belongs to her, and no one else. She shouldn't have to worry about other people attacking it. I know that she's a celebrity and she's in the limelight and blah blah blah, but it still makes me sick that a magazine can try and take a major part of being a woman - her sexuality - and turn it into a mockery, making it an example of "what not to look like" for younger girls who look up to celebrities. And take a look at Jennifer Love Hewitt's case. She was wearing a bikini with a tiny bit of cellulite - something that an overwhelming majority of real women possess - and suddenly the media is calling her a fat pig. What kind of message does this send to younger girls? A terrible one.
Do me a favor, ladies. Please don't take all those celebrity gossip magazines seriously. I promise you that most people will not judge you like that. In the real world, you will not be rejected and deemed "unsexy" because you have a hint of cellulite. Your sexuality is yours, and no one else can take it away from you.
Conservative organizations are upset over the new policy, thinking that it is providing too much information too soon. I'm not sure what world they are living in - but in the one that I'm inhabiting, I see kids having sex younger and younger, and not having a clue as to what they're doing. For organizations that are so concerned with "protecting the children," they seem to be failing miserably. Because comprehensive sex education is necessary to protect the children.
The Campaign for Children and Families is a major Conservative organization that opposes the new health education standards in California. You can visit their website to learn more about them, as well as send them a message to explain why sex education must be made accessible to young teens.
More information and full story here.
For today's Take Action Tuesday, I'm going to link you to a page on NARAL Pro-Choice America. On it, there's a form you can fill out to send to your representatives to urge them to push for more affordable birth control. There has been a large increase in the price of birth control prescriptions, which makes it difficult for low-income women to obtain it. As we know, birth control is crucial to keep our women and children healthy and safe, so it's absolutely necessary that women be able to afford it. If you agree, click here, and take two minutes to fill out the form. Thanks, everyone :)
This prompted me to search for "sexist videos" on YouTube and I came across a lovely vintage Folgers ad that promotes the duty of every housewife to make a perfect cup of coffee for her deserving husband. All I can say is: as cool as the 50s can be, I'm so grateful I didn't have to live during them.
And just to avoid being a downer, here's a really funny commercial that I love. Hope it puts a smile on your face.
Though such arrangements were created, often under court mandate, with a promise of treating same-sex couples the same as opposite-sex couples, many gays and lesbians say they have not delivered and can never do so because separate institutions are inherently unequal. Many also resent being denied use of the word marriage, which they say carries intangible benefits, prestige and status.
I can't believe that people can be so naive as to think that civil unions are fair. Newsflash: there is no such thing as "separate but equal." A few upsetting examples are given in this article, including one about a woman who was in a civil union giving birth in the hospital. A nurse asked her if she was single, married, widowed, or divored. When the woman said she was in a civil union, the nurse checked "single." Another couple in a civil union told a story about how an airport refused to process them as one household, and sent them back to customs to be processed separately.
Civil unions just aren't enough. They downplay the relationship of a same-sex couple, and they force same-sex couples into inferiority. It's as if others are not taking their relationship seriously. LGBT people should not be made into second-class citizens. Refusing them the ability to be legally married is discrimination. Plain and simple. Said one man:
"Being in a civil union is not the same as married. If it was, they would call it marriage. I don't know anybody who would give up their marriage for a civil union."
I came across a really interesting article in Science Daily that explores the health risks that public weighing may be causing in women. Some are speculating that because being weighed in a doctor's office can be embarassing for many women, they are skipping necessary visits to the doctor and therefore are increasing the possibility of having health complications.
Study participants rated discomfort levels over a variety of weight related scenarios. The more dissatisfied a female was with her weight, the greater the discomfort she experienced when being weighed. But even the very concept of weight, tested by assigning some participants to wear a badge bearing the single word, "Weight," caused elevated levels of discomfort because it drew unwanted attention to what is considered an unflattering personal attribute for women.
I suppose it is possible that some women are avoiding the doctor because of embarassment. It's interesting to explore the health risks caused by weighing-in, but I think more important is to study the emotional effects of forcing women to step on the scale. I had a friend who developed a minor eating disorder because her doctor told her she was too heavy (since when is 135 pounds "too heavy"?) Additionally, there's the appalling fact that schools are requiring students to be weighed in gym classes. All four years of high school, I was forced to take a body fat test in my gym class. It was humiliating, and of course I was completely happy with my body until I saw that stupid little number. Actually, maybe it wasn't so much the number itself, but all the girls comparing their body fat percentages to each other after the test was over. I think someone needs to look into changing that policy.
"I am dismayed and sickhearted that we can't sit around a table, as brothers and sisters in Christ, and study Scripture together," he said. "It makes me wonder, if we can't sit around a table and study the Bible together, what kind of Communion do we have and what are we trying to save?"
That's a great point. You have to wonder... how much do your "brothers and sisters in Christ" really mean when they're ready to reject you for who you are? And moreover, how in ANY way would Robinson's sexuality affect his ability to pray and dedicate himself to his religion? Consider this: it doesn't!
The spiritual leader of the Anglican Communion, Archbishop of Canterbury Rowan Williams, didn't invite Robinson to Lambeth, partly to appease theological conservatives, who believe the Bible bars gay relationships. Some had threatened to boycott the meeting if he attended.
Boycotts?!? This makes me so sad. It's not only an issue of these conservatives rejecting him because he's gay, but also the fact that they cannot put aside their differences for the sake of Robinson's feelings and their religious community. If only.
Full story here.
Two words: Bad. Ass.
On March 6, a woman was returning from her job at a homeless shelter, when she was suddenly attacked in her housing project in Brooklyn. The man threatened her with a knife and forced sex on her. Here's the kicker: this woman might have been saved if the two rookie police officers who were supposed to be doing rounds at that time actually performed their duties instead of lying and saying they did. From the New York Times:
In investigating the rape, detectives from the housing bureau spoke to two officers who said they were doing “vertical patrols,” walking up and down the stairwells of the building, at the time of the attack and had marked it in their memo books. But investigators who reviewed the videotaped images found no evidence of the officers’ being there.
As a result, the officers, whose names were not released, were placed on modified assignment on Thursday and stripped of their guns and badges, said Paul J. Browne, the Police Department’s chief spokesman.
I hope these officers feel like shit for not being there when they were needed the most. I'm going to take a wild guess in saying that this was not solely prompted by laziness, but also by a prejudiced notion that somehow, people living in housing projects in Brooklyn deserve less protection than others. Thank God these officers were caught and punished. I don't want any other cops thinking that they can get away with this. You choose to be a cop to protect people... so do it.
This issue is really bringing to light how many people lack journalistic integrity. Peyser writes:
Now, we are getting a clearer picture of this young lady of the evening, the last in a line of babes and C-cups for whom the governor of the state of New York threw away his career, risked his health and maimed his marriage in search of what his madam ominously called "basic" sex. In the version she's putting out, young Ms. Dupre is the victim.First of all: NO, we are not getting a "clearer picture" of her. We are getting bits and pieces of information from every possible source except from the woman herself. Second: "in the version she is putting out"? In order for her to "put out" anything, she needs to actually be involved in this investigation of her life. If anyone is "putting out" information, it's the media - reporters like you, Ms. Peyser.
Two alternate pictures are emerging of Ashley. In one, she's a survivor - of abuse, homelessness and drug abuse. This, of course, was before Ashley was nearly forced against her will to command $1,000 an hour to escort rich men from their clothes.
In another version, she's a spoiled brat whose stepdad bought her a Porsche that she wrecked. So she ran away from home at 17. For this, Eliot Spitzer lost everything. Ashley and Eliot deserve each other. One is mentally challenged by accident of birth. The other is that way by choice.
I would like to know where Peyser found the grounds to call this woman "mentally challenged." I would also like to know what kind of evidence she has to back up her claims - having never even met Ashley before. The media is filled with pettiness, but this is by far the worst I've seen. Can't there be some decent journalists out there that are above all this bullshit?
If you agree with me, you can see the whole story here, along with Peyser's e-mail address. Let her know how you feel. The best part of the New York Post is that they have a discussion board to provide a platform for hundreds of people to call Ashley a "slut" and a "whore."
Some people might argue that in sleeping with the governor of New York, she had to have known that there was a risk she would be exposed. But it was discovered that Spitzer went by a fake name, and she didn't recognize his face. It wasn't until their last encounter that she knew he was the governor. So many people (see: Andrea Peyser) are unnecessarily disgusted with her, when in reality, we should be disgusted with Spitzer, who was not only risking his own reputation, but the reputation and privacy of another person.
But no magazine or newspaper wants to focus on that. Because topless pictures sell more magazines.
The cases involved members of the military who were either victims or accused of the assaults. The military counts rape, nonconsensual sodomy, indecent assault and attempts to commit any of those as sexual assault.
According to the documents, 1,516 reports involved the Army; 565 for the Air Force; 394 for the Navy; and 213 for the Marines. The active duty Army, by far the largest service with about 518,000 soldiers, also saw the highest rate of reported sexual assaults.
It really upsets me that this is going on. To me, it shows that many men are still not taking women in the military seriously. These women enlist to serve their country - not to be treated like a piece of meat. When people argue against women being in the military, often they will reason that the presence of women might "distract" the men from their duties. It is clear that this isn't too far from the truth, but why should it then be the woman's responsibility to back off? Women shouldn't be kept out of the military because some men can't keep their hands to themselves.
Additionally, sexual harassment in the military is not just happening to women. 6% of men also reported being harassed, although it is unclear if the majority of the offenders were male or female. But these statistics still show that sexual harassment in the military is a major problem that is not getting nearly enough attention. I'm worried about women being discouraged from enlisting in the military because of potential harassment. It's tough enough being a woman in a male-dominated association without having to deal with being violated.
What can be done about this though? What kind of steps can be taken to prevent it? Better education? Stricter policies? It's hard to say. I think in the end, it's attitudes towards women that need to be reformed. Unfortunately, that's by far the hardest thing to change.
Ferrante, now 34, was charged under a "Peeping Tom" statute that requires the victim to be "in a place where there is a right to a reasonable expectation of privacy." Testimony indicated he followed the girl, knelt down behind her and placed the camera under her skirt. In January 2007, Tulsa County District Judge Tom Gillert ordered Ferrante's felony charge dismissed. That was based upon a determination that "the person photographed was not in a place where she had a reasonable expectation of privacy," according to the appellate ruling issued last week.
Excuse me, but shouldn't a girl expect men to stay out of her skirt in ANY place, regardless of whether or not it's "private"? This man would have been convicted only if he snapped a picture of her in a bedroom or a bathroom, but sticking a camera up a girl's skirt is perfectly fine in the middle of a Target. Sigh.
Full story here.
On a more optimistic note, I stumbled across this nice little tribute page for Women's History Month put together on MSN.com. They have lists of "famous firsts" by women, 18 women who have changed the world, and 10 women you have never heard of but are worth learning about. Of course, they also have a list of "cringe-worthy" women, which wasn't particularly necessary, but Ann Coulter is on it, which makes it almost worthwhile.
It's a nice, easy way to brush up on your women's history, while appreciating all the amazing ladies that made this world that much better to live in.
Jason Josaphat, 17, a student at Montclair High, said he had spoken to a friend who was at the house that day. The friend was watching television while one or more boys were with the girl in a bedroom, he said, and the friend told Mr. Josaphat that he had heard a girl screaming.
Seriously, if you hear a girl screaming while she's alone in a room with a couple of boys... check and see what it is. Common sense. Another aspect of this story that deeply saddened me was something the grandmother of one of the boys involved in the rape said:
She said the girl was a friend of Mr. Roberts's and had been at the house many times. And she defended her grandson. "It’s not a rape," she said. "They didn't force her to come over."
She cannot possibly be serious. How does the fact that the girl willingly went over to the house make it NOT a rape? Was she supposed to know that she was going to be sexually assaulted? She knew the boys, and perhaps she knew that there would be a lot of people there, and therefore thought she would be safe. It doesn't matter that they didn't "force" her to come over... they still forced her to perform sexual acts on them and they still forced a broomstick inside of her. Sorry, grandma, but your grandson is a genuine rapist.
Full story here.
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Some doctors said the numbers might reflect the downside of both abstinence-only sex education and teens' own sense of invulnerability. Because some sexually transmitted infections can cause infertility and cancer, U.S. health officials called for better screening, vaccination and prevention.
Only about half of the teens in the study acknowledged having sex. Some teens define sex as only intercourse, yet other types of intimate behavior including oral sex can spread some diseases.
Do you see why abstinence-only education is so dangerous? Teens still think that oral sex isn't real sex! In reality, there are dangerous STDs that can be spread through oral sex alone. We can't assume that kids will wait until marriage to have sex, and we can't assume that parents will talk to their kids about these issues. Proper sex education is necessary in schools! It's okay to teach about abstinence, but for God's sake, teach kids how to use a condom as well!
If you feel the same way, you can visit this site to send a letter to your Senators, asking them to oppose giving abstinence-only education more funding.
I mean, wow, I learned about STDs in 7th grade. If I wasn't forced to take Health, I have no idea where I would have gotten my information.
The study suggested that women who felt their childhood relationships with their parents were characterized by “rejection and unresolved conflicts” were likely to view children as more demanding compared to women with happier childhoods. Women with childhood conflict also may become stricter parents. Women who clashed with their parents were also more likely to indicate they would set a lot boundaries for their children than other women in the study.
The article went on to quote a researcher, who believes this information can be beneficial in the future:
Such an evaluation will enable early identification of women who are concerned they will have difficulty contending with parental roles and offer them tools that will help them adapt better to the transition to motherhood.
First, I need to state that this study was only done with 160 women, so it is hardly an indication of every woman's feelings. Second... "concerned they will have difficulty contending with parental roles"? I'm sorry, but don't ALL new mothers experience that? I would be nervous as hell if I were about to give birth to a child that will depend on me for the next eighteen years. I don't think it has to do entirely with a woman's relationship with her parents. My mother didn't have a great relationship with her father, and she turned out to be a wonderful mother who was far from strict. And third... why is there not a study done about new fathers and their adjustment to parental roles? I should think men have just as much of a difficult time dealing with being a father as a woman does being a mother.
Full article here.
According to the Center for Women's Business Research, as of 2006, there were 7.7 million firms either owned by women, or in which women held the majority share. They account for 29.7 percent of all businesses in the U.S., a rise of 42.3 percent since 1997. Not only are such businesses good for women, they're good for the economy, generating 1.1 trillion in annual sales and employing 7.2 million people nationwide.Wow, that's fantastic. I really respect someone who can open up their own business. My first job was working in this shop in my town that was owned by a woman named Sarah. Her shop was small, but she has managed to keep it open since the 80s. Props to the women who can kick ass in the business world, and thanks to them for helping the economy (God knows we need it).
Full article here.
There are very few jobs that actually require a penis or vagina. All other jobs should be open to everybody.
- Florynce Kennedy
I say "everyone" like there's people actually reading this, but in reality, I just started, so the only people that will read this right now are probably my close friends... and they'll only read it because I'll make them.
But, for those few of you that might stumble across this, welcome! Please stay!
I plan to post in here as much as I can. I want to spread the word about any stories/events I might find regarding women, feminism, or equal rights. I know that usually it can be pretty hard to find stories on those topics; you kind of have to dig through news websites and blogs to get to them. So, here I am to do all the digging for you - to compile key stories I find to spread awareness and inspire you to be active in the struggle for equality.
Please leave your comments and your input. I don't mind some debate, in fact I quite like it, but please be courteous to each other. No personal attacks, no hate speech, etc.
Well, I guess that's it. You can check my profile if you want to know more about who the hell this random person is who decided to start this thing. You can e-mail me if you want to give me some feedback as well. Enjoy!
My name is Amy Rubinson, and I created Appetite for Equal Rights in March 2008 as a way to counter the lack of coverage of feminist issues provided by mainstream media. When I refer to feminism, I'm not just talking about women-specific issues. To me, feminism has grown and changed so much throughout the years and I'm proud to say that we've gotten to a point where it encompasses a wide array of social issues that affect everyone. Therefore, I write about any and all issues I see as relevant to today's feminism: LGBTQ rights, people of color and racism, men's issues, poverty, immigration reform, animal rights, etc. Though there are negative aspects of blogging, I think that blogs can ultimately make up for what major news stations and websites lack.
I'm assuming that if you're reading this, you're either a loyal reader or a potential reader... which means I love you. My readers mean the world to me, so never hesitate to comment on what I write to provide your two cents, and please contact me with any questions or concerns.
How do I contact you?
The best way to contact me is through e-mail: email@example.com
How do I get my blog featured on your blogroll?
If you have a feminist blog that you want featured on my blogroll, feel free to e-mail me. Be sure to provide a link to your blog, and a few words on what you feel your blog brings to feminism. Remember that I can't put every blog on the blogroll lest it get unbearably long, so I can't accept every submission. But keep in mind that this doesn't mean your blog isn't important. Every feminist blog brings something special to the blogosphere.
What constitutes appropriate and inappropriate comments?
I encourage you to comment on a post I make if you have something to say. If you disagree with me then feel free to say so! I do love me some debate, but please be respectful. Meaning no childish name-calling, hate speech, racial slurs, personal threats, etc. I'll clarify.
Appropriate comment: "Personally, I have to disagree with you. I tend to believe that affirmative action is a form of reverse racism because it can cause employers and college admissions boards to disregard a perfectly qualified candidate simply because they happen to have not be born a person of color. To me, that seems unfair."
Inappropriate comment: "You are so stupid. I can't even believe the shit you are saying, you dumb cunt. Why don't you go buy yourself some tampons and shut up?!?"
See the difference? I reserve the right to delete any comments that fall into the latter category.
Can I write for Appetite for Equal Rights?
As of now, I'm the only writer. However, if you have something worthwhile to say, you can send me your ideas and I might use it for a post! If you're interested in writing your own post, I would love to have you write a guest post. Contact me with the words "guest post" in the subject of the e-mail, and we'll chat.
Can I advertise on your blog?
I'm open to accepting advertisements for blogs, websites, organizations, companies, etc., provided they don't counteract my beliefs. For example, don't even bother asking to advertise if you're selling weight loss products. If you're unsure whether or not your request is appropriate, e-mail me anyway. The cost of advertising will depend on the size, placement, and duration of the ad. We can discuss it and negotiate.
Can I get another feminist lolcat?