Thursday, August 13, 2009
I remember once in a Women's Studies class of mine, someone commented that not enough feminist bloggers offer criticisms of marriage. If you share this belief, take a peek at a piece written by Renee of Womanist Musings, entitled: A 'feminist wedding' is an oxymoron. With the title alone I agree. I'm someone who refuses to get married... and if my partner can't cope with that, then I'll have to find a new one.
While the very idea of celebrating love in front of close friends and family is one that I applaud, I loathe full-on marriage for the discriminatory and patriarchal institution that it is. I will still campaign for same-sex marriage because I believe that marriage remains a choice for every person, and as long as LGBT people are denied this choice, they can never be anything more than second-class citizens. But for me personally, the most I plan to do is a commitment ceremony. You can celebrate finding your soulmate without becoming a part of an extremely problematic aspect of society. And while I believe "to each her own," I hope I can encourage some feminists to re-think the path that society has laid out in front of them. My own very feminist roommmate admitted that she herself never considered not getting married, nor did she consider abandoning the tradition of the father giving away the bride like a piece of property.
It's tough to break away from what has been implanted in our heads since birth, but hopefully we can encourage each other to seek alternative paths.