Thursday, February 11, 2010
Women and men in relationships
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By: Anonymous - from the series of guest posts written by Dr. Baldwin's students at Michigan State University.
The other day in class we started discussing relationships. I’ve been briefly thinking about some of the comments made and it’s come to make me feel like the younger the boyfriend the less he cares. I’ve been dating my boyfriend for nearly three years, and I am a freshman in college. Tell me about it. When we were younger it was kind of you do your thing, I’ll do mine. I notice many girls crying because their boyfriends don’t spend enough time with them, or he’d rather be a boy than paint her toenails. Understandable? I think so, but she doesn’t. Boys seem to like being manly, and I feel like with their girlfriends not being understanding of the fact, it tends to drive them away. Women seem to strive for the perfect lovey dovey relationship. The candles, the movies and the cuddling. The man; however seems to like to watch football, and eat a burger. Young couples getting married appear to fall out of love, or result in divorce whereas older couples fall more in love with each other. Elderly couples look like they could not be happier because they both know they were in it for the long haul, and made it. They no longer have anything to damage their reputation. They have a best friend they couldn’t live without. They may not have gotten married when they were 20 however. This is very stereotypical of me to assume these things, but men and women not getting along gets more and more apparent with every discussion had.
The other day in class we started discussing relationships. I’ve been briefly thinking about some of the comments made and it’s come to make me feel like the younger the boyfriend the less he cares. I’ve been dating my boyfriend for nearly three years, and I am a freshman in college. Tell me about it. When we were younger it was kind of you do your thing, I’ll do mine. I notice many girls crying because their boyfriends don’t spend enough time with them, or he’d rather be a boy than paint her toenails. Understandable? I think so, but she doesn’t. Boys seem to like being manly, and I feel like with their girlfriends not being understanding of the fact, it tends to drive them away. Women seem to strive for the perfect lovey dovey relationship. The candles, the movies and the cuddling. The man; however seems to like to watch football, and eat a burger. Young couples getting married appear to fall out of love, or result in divorce whereas older couples fall more in love with each other. Elderly couples look like they could not be happier because they both know they were in it for the long haul, and made it. They no longer have anything to damage their reputation. They have a best friend they couldn’t live without. They may not have gotten married when they were 20 however. This is very stereotypical of me to assume these things, but men and women not getting along gets more and more apparent with every discussion had.
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February 11, 2010 at 3:09 PM
I like this post. It's interesting to me, because I am dating a man who is a FTM (used to be a woman). The 'rules' don't always apply. If only people were more open minded.
Thanks - love your site!
March 3, 2010 at 9:04 PM
I agree with the part about when hes younger hes more inmature because i also have been in a relationship for a long time and have really noticed a change in the last year or so.
I don't personally think that every person who gets married when they are younger has the problems. It's really on a case to cae basis in my opinion. I know that my boyfriend and I are young, but we really don't fight or have many differences.
Every girl wants to have some level of sweetness in her realtionship as well as the man. Not all men are opposed to cuddling up and watching a movie with their girlfriends. Some girls call it lucky, but I just think that comes with maturity. So to those girls...Stick it out they'll grow up!
-Nice article! very interesting points.
April 12, 2010 at 11:59 PM
I agree with this post a lot! I've been dating my boyfriend for 4 years and I'm also a freshman in college. Although we are still young, I'm 19 and he's 20...we still have so much more mature together then we were when i was 15 and he was 16. it's not a big deal if we don't see eachother all the time or if we don't go on a fancy night out. we're with eachother because we want to be, and know that at the end of it, we'll be there for eachother. He doesn't get mad at me for doing girl things, and i definitely don't get mad at him for doing guy things. Sometimes i feel like US women should be more open minded to staying in for a night of ESPN and football games. Being one of the guys for the night really can be fun. And if it's not what i want to do for the night, or not my kind of style, then I can go out and be a girl for the night with my girlfriends.