Sunday, February 7, 2010
Changing ourselves to please men
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By: Lea B - from the series of guest posts written by Dr. Baldwin's students at Michigan State University.
I recently heard about the woman who is attempting to look like Jessica Alba, not just because she feels she is not good enough but because she wants to get her man back! I wasn’t so shocked at first, women try to look like celebrities all the time, just turn on your TV and there is probably a whole section in the news dedicated to showing women how to dress like their favorite actors for less. But this woman had taken it to another level, she was getting plastic surgery, that’s right, going under the knife just so she could look like what she thinks is better and please her man!
Personally, the extremes women go through to look good for men have always bugged me. Sure men try to look good too, but how many of them spend hours shaving, putting makeup on, fixing their hair and deciding what to wear. As if that wasn’t enough, now we have women spending money and going under the knife with the sole purpose of winning back their men! If that isn’t scary I don’t know what is!
To all the women out there, we’re all getting older and no one is going to look the same after 40-50 years. If your man is with you just because of your looks, rest assured it’s not going to last. So my message is be yourself and if someone doesn’t love you for you then don’t waste your precious time!
I recently heard about the woman who is attempting to look like Jessica Alba, not just because she feels she is not good enough but because she wants to get her man back! I wasn’t so shocked at first, women try to look like celebrities all the time, just turn on your TV and there is probably a whole section in the news dedicated to showing women how to dress like their favorite actors for less. But this woman had taken it to another level, she was getting plastic surgery, that’s right, going under the knife just so she could look like what she thinks is better and please her man!
Personally, the extremes women go through to look good for men have always bugged me. Sure men try to look good too, but how many of them spend hours shaving, putting makeup on, fixing their hair and deciding what to wear. As if that wasn’t enough, now we have women spending money and going under the knife with the sole purpose of winning back their men! If that isn’t scary I don’t know what is!
To all the women out there, we’re all getting older and no one is going to look the same after 40-50 years. If your man is with you just because of your looks, rest assured it’s not going to last. So my message is be yourself and if someone doesn’t love you for you then don’t waste your precious time!
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February 22, 2010 at 9:24 PM
The biggest thing that bothers me about this post is not how far she is willing to go to look like Jessica Alba, but that the woman is trying to win a man back who won't love her for who she is. What I don't understand is what could possibly be so great about him that she is willing to change everything about herself to get him back! I think it would be more important for her to not change her body image, but work on how she percieves herself. She needs to accept and love herself first and foremost, and then hopefully realize that she doesn't need someone who can't love her for who she is.